圣经研读 #14 妇女反转婚姻里的咒诅 IBS#14 – Women Reversing the Curse in Marriage

圣经研读 #14  妇女反转婚姻里的咒诅

IBS#14 Women Reversing the Curse in Marriage

对妻子的旨意   The Wife’s Commands

1.  在彼得前书3:1-7 神怎么吩咐妻子来反转咒诅？ 

 

a.  顺服是什么意思？在彼得前书3:1“像这样”是要引述前一章的什么？在基督化的生活中顺服扮演什么角色？圣经所说的顺服是自卑（腓力比书2:6）吗？第七节的“虚己”如何教导我们圣经的顺服？ 中国文化中的顺服和圣经的顺服有何不同？

 

b.  当妻子同意她丈夫的时候说她将顺服他，那会有什么问题？ 

 

 2.  在以弗所书五章那段对作丈夫的说话之前，在 5:21 说到：“又当存敬畏基督的心，彼此顺服。”夫妻双方都需要把自己从属于对方，但是两方的从属看起来有所不同：丈夫从属于妻子是借着引领她、爱护她，而妻子从属于丈夫是借着顺服他、尊敬他。

根据彼得前书3:1，这种顺服在有永恒价值的丈夫身上会达成什么？根据彼得前书3:4，这种顺服在有永恒价值的妻子身上又会达成什么？

 

a.  说明什么是“温柔安静”的心？在目前那样的心仍被看重吗？为什么神认为那是“极宝贵的”？

 

3.  丈夫不能要求妻子顺服他而违反神的诫命。从使徒行传5:1-10亚拿尼亚与撒非拉的事件，关于神如何要夫妻二人自行负责，我们学到了什么？顺服丈夫的妻子如何“不被任何恐惧惊吓”？   

 

a.  顺服是否意味着妻子必须忍受被虐待？

从以下这些经节，对如何处理被虐待的事你学到什么？箴言22:3，27:12，大卫：撒母耳记上19:10-12，保罗：哥林多后书11:32-33，耶稣：路加福音4:28-30，约翰福音8:59, 10:39

 

4.  无论怎么看“更软弱的器皿”的意思，在这段经文的前后文里，表达的也是“更容易受伤的”，因为妻子选择在婚姻里顺服。若丈夫不是合理地对待妻子，他将面对什么警告？ 

5. 说一个你曾对付婚姻里咒诅的经历

 

结论:

虽然借着本性是操控的妻子，和粗鲁或没有反应的丈夫，罪把咒诅带进了婚姻关系，却并不表示这是神愿意的婚姻状况。以弗所书和彼得前书都引导夫妻双方去反转这些咒诅。基督徒不再照他们原来的感觉生活，而按照那超自然的；因为基督已经破除了罪的权势、挪去对信徒的咒诅，而且圣灵使我们每个人都能顺服神的旨意。

IBS#14 Women Reversing the Curse in Marriage

The Wife’s Commands

1.  From 1 Pt 3:1-7 what command does God give the wife that reverses the curse? 

 

a.  What does it mean to be submissive?  In 1 Pt 3:1, what does “in the same way” refer to in the previous chapter?  What role does submission have in the Christian life?   Does Biblical submission imply inferiority (see Phil 2:6)?  What does the word “co-heir” in verse 7 tell us about Biblical submission?  What is the difference between cultural and Biblical submission?

b.  What is the problem with a wife saying that she will be submissive when she agrees with her husband?  

 

 2.  In Eph 5:21 just before the section speaking to husbands, it says “and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.”  Both spouses need to subject themselves to each other, but the subjection looks different for each:  the husband is to subject himself to his wife by leading and loving her, and the wife is to subject herself to her husband by being submissive and respectful.

According to 1 Pt 3:1, what can this kind of submission achieve in the husband that is of eternal value?  According to 1 Pt 3:4, what can this kind of submission achieve in the wife that is of eternal value?

 

a.  Describe what is a “quiet and gentle” spirit.  Is this valued today?  Why would God find this “precious”?

 

3.  A husband cannot ask a wife to break a commandment of God in her submission to him.   What do we learn about how God holds each spouse accountable in the incident about Ananias and Sapphira in Acts 5:1-10?  How can a woman be submissive to her husband “without being frightened by any fear”?   

a.  Does being submissive mean that the wife must accept abuse?

What can you learn from the following passages regarding how abuse was handled?  Prov 22:3, 27:12, David – 1 Sam 19:10-12, Paul – 2 Cor 11:32-33, and Jesus – Lk 4:28-30, Jn 8:59, 10:39

 

4.  Whatever we may think the words “weaker vessel” may mean, in the context of this passage, it also means “more vulnerable” because the wife chooses to play a submissive role in the marriage.  What is the warning to husbands if they don’t treat their wife in an understanding way? 

5.  Give an example of how you have been able to counter the curse in your marriage.

 

Summary:

Although sin brought a curse upon the marriage relationship through a naturally controlling wife and a harsh or unresponsive husband, this does not mean that this is God’s desired state for marriage.  The commands in Eph and 1 Pt direct each spouse to reverse these curses.  The Christian is no longer to live according to what feels natural any more, but supernatural, because Christ has broken the power of sin and the curse over the believer, and the Holy Spirit enables each to obey God’s commands.